Photo illustration. Author: The Cut; Photo courtesy of Kate McLeod
Kate McLeod lived a life you could imagine on the big screen. And in fact, part of his life has already been adapted to television. «When Cupid is a journalist, »Ա 2015 թ New York Times:McLeod’s love story with her husband, Astin McLeod, who is the Founding Director Hinge:, և continued to be the second episode of the first season Amazon Pillar Customization“Although the episode is a ‘highly adaptive’ retelling of their story,” says McLeod, it conveys one of his core beliefs. “Love begets love.” Hings was eventually the result of her husband seeking treatment for her heartache when she and Kate divorced.
Her relationship was the impetus for her eponymous skin care company, which produces strong moisturizers to take care of self-care (և baby soft skin). “The feeling of just being touched gives us strength,” says McLeod. “It’s different for each person to hit your force, but for me it works.” Below, McLeod talks to Cut about how he attaches himself to his body, how COVID-19: changed the idea of his health և the key to a strong relationship.
On his definition of wellness. If you had asked me five or ten years ago, I would have answered as follows: “I sweat every day. I do yoga mats a few times a week. I’m thinking, ‘I’m drinking juices,’ և that’s definitely part of it, but I’m not defining it that way. For me, health is when I am aware, when I am present. I can do endless routines, և I can still be in my personal torture. If I’m not present, I’m probably not in touch with the people around me. I have noticed that when this happens, my relationship breaks down a bit.
This sounds silly, but a few years ago I was working with this incredible energy doctor և he asked me to look at my thumb. When I get nervous, I pick my fingers, my cuticles, and that day my thumb, in particular, was destroyed. So he told me to look at it, և he asked me. “Do you realize that you are a dumb finger?” It is your body. Do you feel that? ” I looked at the damage I had done, from the nerves to the cuticles, it looked pretty rough. So I’m convinced that even if we do not open our mouths, we are still saying something. We have internal broadcasting. Then there’s this external broadcast that never stops, it’s literally everything from how we talk to how we live, it teaches the world how to treat us. When you are aware of your nervousness և you feel it, then you can process it, it is health.
How did COVID-19 transform its idea of health? I was six months after giving birth when the epidemic happened. I was having a really hard time before COVID because I was trying to balance a small trip to New York. I was working, away from my baby, coming home, running like a beheaded chicken. Then we reached Hudson Valley, and my family was in the same house. I remember the first week we all sat at the dinner table, it never happened. It was so thorough, soothing, we just talked, we laughed.
Leaving the city gave me the opportunity to create my own routine. I come here from a very special point of view, but as a mother of a very young child, working from home is unbelievable, because I can go in and out all day to see her. We have really developed traditions in the family, like eating together, և what comes from COVID, about which my husband and I have talked a lot, is that we want to continue to include it. When we get back to town, we want to make sure we eat together at the same table at least a few times a week.
In his mornings. I’m spoiled because my 2 year old’s like to sleep, he does not wake up until 8 in the morning. 30. When I hear him, he gets a hot chocolate-milk bottle, which he is looking forward to և I go. entered his room և he is so excited. We curl up in my bed, he drinks his bottle. I really protect my mornings because they are for tying my son. Until 10 o’clock in the morning, when I change my clothes early, brush my teeth, before sitting at the computer, we play, have breakfast together. I have a waffle press that has been used extensively with COVID.
I do not make caffeine. It makes me really excited. Now I’m really into Ashwagandha turmeric tea, but until now I’ve been making homemade hot chocolate, adding Ashwagandha և a number of adaptogens to Vitamix. Then I would add a handful of raw walnuts, hot water, it would seem. That was my morning drink.
The key to a good relationship. I met my husband at the age of 18, it was definitely not love at first sight. [Laughs] It was my second day in college when I first met him. I had just left all school girls. I just got my first kiss ի I have never tasted alcohol. I was checking the dormitory,: I was walking up the stairs, և I saw how this man came out of life և he terrified me. I was like. “O my God! Is this person dead? ” That was my husband.
When we started dating before the end of the school year, we were inseparable. Then we broke up a lot. I was doing my own thing. I’ve been struggling with eating disorders for a long time, so I’m addicted. My husband, you probably know how I met him, definitely had his own fight. When he graduated from college, he began to sober up.
Years later, when I was living in ur yurich, he emailed me that he was in town and asked if I wanted a cup of coffee. I was still thinking about him, և I was going to get married, և I had never done anything like that, but I said: “I’m going to talk to you on the phone on Friday morning,” he woke up that Friday morning. “I bought a plane ticket. You would change your mind, you would not jump on the phone. ” I broke off my engagement, I moved to New York, we had an amazing honeymoon. Then I was a hot mess.
We are partners in this kind of growth, which means we are really pushing a lot in many ways. We played with those wounds since childhood. When we are in a negative spiral, we can really go down, but when we cultivate it, we start building it all in a positive spiral.
All of this says that one of the things I learned from that relationship was that the power of self-love is that I really need to show myself that I need to love myself in order to later build this amazing relationship that allows me to. to do us much more than we could from a solo concert. We have been together for seven years,, it has been a journey with so many heights և with low results, but we are in a really good, solid place. Having that growth partner who makes me responsible և I make him responsible is part of my health journey. Sometimes we need a mirror that stimulates the point that challenges us to go higher and higher or to help us grow.
On his approach to food. I have such a complicated relationship with food. It ‘s where I’m growing up, learning how to love myself, because I’re still learning how to feed myself. I grew up in the 90’s, it was really a diet culture.
At the end of high school, it was then that I started limiting, և frankly, I had a huge problem with bulimia. Food just became my feeling և the feeling of feeling. I do not know what else to say, but bulimic cleansing was this strong sensation and feeling, և I look back at it now և I think all the sadness and all the emotion that I did not know how to work out, և which I feel the need, almost as if it were was coming forward.
In 2007, I found a cooking program in Florence, Italy. I was there for nine months, I fell in love with food. I’ve always loved to cook, but I grew up in a small town, food bloggers were not like today, I did not know how to make things from scratch. And it was really wonderful that when I moved there, during the program, two of my roommates, one was a professional baker, one was a professional cook, and we made everything at home. Frankly, I ate my way through Italy. Amazing was possible I had Eat, pray, love I went out several times and bought bigger jeans.
Then I came home, I found myself at Goldman Sachs, the financial crisis went on, I was like. “I do not really think it’s right for me.” I fell in love with handicrafts. I loved the way food gathered people. I did not grow up in a big family. I am the only child. : What I discovered in Italy was that food has the power to create a gathering,: it could make a connection. So when I was unhappy during my work day, I would come home և I would cook and bake. So food developed something really new for me in later life, և it started to take on this different meaning, something I could do, և I’m so proud, but it և community և a way to connect.
In recent years I have played with vegetation, but it is not for me. If you’ve ever heard of a blood type diet, I’m O: They say O is a cave, I really crave meat. My body feels really good when I eat it. I’m very careful about where my food comes from, but it tastes good to me, I think I’m slipping now that I’re just listening to my body. I eat everything.
About connecting with his body. I’m really scared of my body because I know what I did to it. It’s been six years, I don’t have a bad attitude towards bulimia, but it was a whole fight for 15 years. When I landed in New York City in 2015, I was so, so lonely. I just felt so small.
My sister was one of the first people to ever see me. One day he saw me put lotion on my body and tore it from my hand. He said. “I think you really need to spend some time with your body,” he gave me a piece of cocoa butter.
I tried to apply the raw cocoa butter on my skin և it lasted forever. It does not melt easily, but I put it on, նման I was like. “Wow, my body feels great.” Then I brought the cocoa butter to the kitchen and melted it. I once found essential oils in my yoga practice. I took a course in Ayurveda – և I started mixing,: what I found, և it’s right for me և today is that when I used it, I could have had very different days.
I could have had two very different mornings then. From time to time I had a big deviation, and then I was punished all day long. I would go to a training class and then it would evaporate all day, it would get worse and worse. But then, just by luck, I would wake up, take a shower, take out the cocoa butter mixture I made, work on the skin, I realized something. I will never forget this one day, because it really was a lamp moment. I was walking outside, I was in such a good mood. We lived in this little studio in West Village, և I was walking around with everyone smiling, և I started asking: “What is different?”
I spent these two minutes with my cocoa butter mixture. At that time I was taking a wooden spoon կլ a round bunch of the mixture, which was in my hand. A few years later I moved fast, when I started thinking about selling this, people were like: “Put it in a deodorant stick.” I was like. “No, no, no. It’s a tangible experience. ” Holding it և actually putting it on your body, rubbing it, becomes you, your hands և your skin. Try it for 30 seconds, treat it almost like a meditation, bring a little love to your body. All those negative stories in your head – և I still hear them, but they are not so loud – write new stories with this practice. Thinking positively about your body through this practice literally saved me.